Disclaimer: this may sound like a rant!
Once again, we (both parents) are in my son’s classroom for a meeting regarding his behavior. This is by far the largest group we’ve met with yet…both Kinder teachers (they have a job share), the principal, school counselor, special education teacher and school psychologist. I have to admit that I’m totally apprehensive going in to each meeting. I always assume the worst, that they’ll tell me my kid is uncontrollable and should be on meds. I’m always ready to defend because I’m convinced that he doesn’t need meds.
At the age of 3 1/2 we were asked to have him seen by an MD for potential physical issues because he wasn’t 100% potty trained! Then a behavior specialist who observed him in school and came to our home. Don’t get me wrong, I’m open minded enough to take action and get all the suggested help and/or doctors notes requested of me. I’m just convinced that my son is quite brilliant, knows how to push buttons, and has a mind to only do the things that interest him most. That just didn’t happen to be sittingstill in a circle QUIETLY for 30 minutes 2x daily with a group of other kids his age.
So as I thought, we were asked to go through all the screenings/assessments/whateveryouwannacallthem again. I have a slight twinge of sadness with this process but I have to admit, the public school we are at is one of the best in our state, if not the best. The help he has received thus far has been fantastic and the potential help he will receive going forward is encouraging. I was most encouraged by the acknowledgement by teachers and staff that he is bright, he is capable, it’s really just a focus issue.
So, as I breathe a little easier, I will process the requested paperwork (still with a bit of sadness) and realize that my son and his brilliance just can’t be contained in the public school system as it is. Being that we are a dual-income family I’m not about to start down the road of homeschooling (although it has crossed my mind) but I’m grateful for the help and the capable teachers that recognize his intelligence above his behavior. I came across this article called Unlock Your Fidgety Child’s Ability To Learn and Focus that really describes what type of learning that just makes sense with my son.
The encouraging piece to all this is he will be getting more individualized attention, he’s not the only one (because sometimes as a parent you feel like your kid is the ONLY one) and he is still a brilliant, happy and hilarious little guy that lights up my world.