I’ve already seen so many “woe-is-me” posts on facebook, blogs and articles about Valentine’s Day and yes that appeals to a certain large percentage of the population. But I say quit whining! Pull your nose out of your belly button and think of someone else for a change! Maybe that is why your Valentine’s Day (and probably every other holiday) is miserable, because all you do it think of yourself! Hmphf!
Make this year about other people and see how much your outlook changes. Make or buy a Valentine’s Day card, write a note or a poem if that’s your thing, and give it to someone, anyone. Who cares if you don’t have a special ‘love interest’ in your life. There are so many people you can express your love and gratitude for. Do you have any parents, aunts, uncles, cousins, brothers, sisters, children that you can stop and just say “I love you” to? Do you have any friends that are single and would appreciate a card from someone, anyone. Is there a neighbor, elderly person you can share a little love with?
I’m not writing this post to put anyone on the spot. Really, I’m writing it for me. I tend to think most things are all about me and I’m usually quick to be critical (trying desperately hard to change this characteristic!). I was reminded this year that Valentine’s Day is not just about expressing your love to someone who knows you love them (although this is still a good thing to do!), but maybe sharing love with those you don’t live with and may need it most.
My husband and I didn’t wake up and make heart-shaped pancakes for each other. He went to work and I stayed with the kiddos who are on holiday. But we did receive cards in the mail from my mom. A card for each kid and one for us as a couple. I also received a home-made card from my son. Why does this stand out to me? Because I realized that a seemingly small effort made such a world of difference to me. And I feel totally loved. They weren’t from my husband/significant other (whom I know loves me to pieces) but just from important people in my life. And maybe this is why we need holidays like this. Sometimes we need to be reminded to share our love because life gets so busy, because we’re not all perfect and cheery all the time and because even though we think some people may know they are important to us, they might not really know unless we show a little love.
What did I do? I decided to show my love for my hubby by organizing our paperwork and creating a new filing system for our financials, mail, business, home improvements, kids stuff, etc. I’ll write about how it all turned out in a separate blog. I know that this is something that was bothering him and the best way I could think to show him how much I love him, by putting in that extra effort to keep our home and lives organized, because we always seem to have something that needs ‘fixing’. This is one thing we will now be able to check off the list! Sadly, I wasn’t as prepared to send out cards to others but I will make sure to make a few phone calls today and send a few messages to that a few important people in my life truly know I love them. And, me and the kids will make a few cards to give out to other, not so close to us people, just because.
So, forget the romance around Valentine’s Day and use it to express your love for those important people in your life. Because isn’t that what it’s all about? L.O.V.E.
Here’s some ideas to get you started…