Did I cause this lovely change in life, for my family? Yesterday I wrote about gratitude and today I’m being tested on this very topic. Such is life. The temptation is to crawl under a rock and hide. What do you do when you are … Continue reading Life’s Tests
Sometimes the epiphany of the day is that the thing you are focusing on, fretting over and stressing out about doesn’t even exist! It could be the potential to lose your job, the financial distress you expect is looming in the near future, the challenging … Continue reading There is no spoon.
A high school friend lost her husband just over a month ago. We are the same age. She has a beautiful daughter and wonderful friends and family close by. Today is her 9th anniversary with her husband and I’m so blown away by her strength … Continue reading I’m Alive
I know there is clutter in many areas of our home and sometimes I just think it will always be that way. Even when I get help cleaning my home, the deeper cleaning gets taken care of, like the toilets, floors, carpets, windows, laundry and … Continue reading 10 Minutes to Declutter
One of the biggest challenges on school days is the morning routine….am I right?!
My son is schedule challenged, wherein he has no sense of the schedule we must keep in the morning to get him to school on time so we are not in the office getting written up because we didn’t arrive before the last bell and now all the gates are locked and we can’t sneak in and you know how the story goes.
Since his dresser was on it’s way out anyway I tried something new. I can’t take all the credit, I did see something similar in a friend’s house so I’m just adapting it to our situation.
I bought a hanging closet organizer (affiliate link) and then placed his t-shirt and shorts for each day of the week (M-F). I let him know it was there and that he would need to grab his clothes in the morning, get dressed and come downstairs for breakfast. Before this new setup I would usually go into his room, pick out clothes and set them on his bed and would have to nag the entire morning until it was time to leave and there was no time for breakfast and breakdowns would ensue. With this new system, he has been empowered and has made it down for breakfast each morning on his own with plenty of time for breakfast! I also kept everything in view (we just haven’t replaced the dresser yet and may not if this continues to work well) and he grabs his undies and socks separately. I use the bottom cubby for pj’s and on the weekends we are relaxed so there’s plenty of time for him to pick out his own clothes or for me to go in and pick out some for him.
Hope this helps, Happy New School Year!
I’ve already seen so many “woe-is-me” posts on facebook, blogs and articles about Valentine’s Day and yes that appeals to a certain large percentage of the population. But I say quit whining! Pull your nose out of your belly button and think of someone else for a change! Maybe that is why your Valentine’s Day (and probably every other holiday) is miserable, because all you do it think of yourself! Hmphf!
Make this year about other people and see how much your outlook changes. Make or buy a Valentine’s Day card, write a note or a poem if that’s your thing, and give it to someone, anyone. Who cares if you don’t have a special ‘love interest’ in your life. There are so many people you can express your love and gratitude for. Do you have any parents, aunts, uncles, cousins, brothers, sisters, children that you can stop and just say “I love you” to? Do you have any friends that are single and would appreciate a card from someone, anyone. Is there a neighbor, elderly person you can share a little love with?
I’m not writing this post to put anyone on the spot. Really, I’m writing it for me. I tend to think most things are all about me and I’m usually quick to be critical (trying desperately hard to change this characteristic!). I was reminded this year that Valentine’s Day is not just about expressing your love to someone who knows you love them (although this is still a good thing to do!), but maybe sharing love with those you don’t live with and may need it most.
My husband and I didn’t wake up and make heart-shaped pancakes for each other. He went to work and I stayed with the kiddos who are on holiday. But we did receive cards in the mail from my mom. A card for each kid and one for us as a couple. I also received a home-made card from my son. Why does this stand out to me? Because I realized that a seemingly small effort made such a world of difference to me. And I feel totally loved. They weren’t from my husband/significant other (whom I know loves me to pieces) but just from important people in my life. And maybe this is why we need holidays like this. Sometimes we need to be reminded to share our love because life gets so busy, because we’re not all perfect and cheery all the time and because even though we think some people may know they are important to us, they might not really know unless we show a little love.
What did I do? I decided to show my love for my hubby by organizing our paperwork and creating a new filing system for our financials, mail, business, home improvements, kids stuff, etc. I’ll write about how it all turned out in a separate blog. I know that this is something that was bothering him and the best way I could think to show him how much I love him, by putting in that extra effort to keep our home and lives organized, because we always seem to have something that needs ‘fixing’. This is one thing we will now be able to check off the list! Sadly, I wasn’t as prepared to send out cards to others but I will make sure to make a few phone calls today and send a few messages to that a few important people in my life truly know I love them. And, me and the kids will make a few cards to give out to other, not so close to us people, just because.
So, forget the romance around Valentine’s Day and use it to express your love for those important people in your life. Because isn’t that what it’s all about? L.O.V.E.
Here’s some ideas to get you started…