About 3 1/2 years ago life took some crazy turns for us. Now that I have had a chance to breath and take a look back, I see that YOU really CAN do whatever you want to do. I say YOU because if I could do it, than for sure so can you! Oh, and life doesn’t slow down for you.
It was the summer of 2012, I had just found out I was pregnant (with my 2nd) and was also laid off from a really awesome job that I loved. My 1st trimester was tough. I was sick the entire 3 months, while trying to go on interviews and hide the already showing bump. I had an energetic 4 yr old that was having a hard time following all the rules in preschool and a loving husband who was working his tail off but we live in Southern California so we are a two income family.
After job hunting for a bit, luck would have it that a former boss, who is more like a big brother, was in need of some help and so I was able to work from home. This proved out to be a true miracle (not the first time he’s come to my rescue!). My morning sickness lasted all day for 3 months. I was so grateful when I hit that 2nd trimester and only had to deal with the feeling of nausea. During the second & third trimester I was able to work, travel and feel pretty normal.
Once I had my baby girl (March 2013) things changed a bit. HR didn’t seem to like the idea that I was a remote worker (old school mentality from a working mother no less!) so I got tons of lashback and had to change my role. Again, as luck would have it, I was able to land another remote gig through some amazing connections and continued working from home with the ability to be with my newborn.
Now, I did have some help because, even a full time mom can tell you she just needs a break sometimes. Add working to the table and there were times I just needed to be on the phone or someone to do the dishes. I just don’t want you to think I did this all by myself. Plus, I was begging and pleading in prayer, saying daily affirmations and begging the universe to help us figure out this new lifestyle (more on this begging stuff in future posts because I truly believe it worked!)
One epiphany I had while working from home with infant at breast and now 5 yr old in kindergarten, and after recently going through a job hunting phase, was that I need to finish my degree. Yes, after many years of school and a 14 year hiatus, I felt the need (for my own conscious) to finish my degree. I had never posted a degree on my resume (just that I attended school) or lied about having one to an employer so there were no guilty feelings there. I was able to work with amazing companies and have great references so I wasn’t worried it would keep me from a future job (well, maybe a little) but I also just wanted finish what I started.
So, in the fall of 2014 with a full time working husband, an 18 month old (now in playcare) and 1st grader, I was working full time from home and went back to school to finish my undergrad degree. This meant I drove from San Diego to Los Angeles twice a week to be in class with all the youngins. It’s a 3hr commute each way, sometimes longer in the evening because of traffic. I did this for 2 quarters and I actually enjoyed it! Don’t get me wrong, it was painful, hard, scary, humbling but completely worth it.
During this already hectic time my 1st grader was having an incredibly hard time with the typical school day. He was beginning to hate school, which broke my heart, and we could see signs of anxiety begin to show on a daily basis. We had to make a change but we were supposedly in the very best elementary school in all of Southern California. So, we made the decision to homeschool this child, yes on top of everything else! I have no idea how I managed through that time except that I prayed a whole lot!
Life is still crazy, I am no longer employed, we are still homeschooling and figuring out what’s next for our family but I know that we will get through it. Bonus: I now have a degree from UCLA! I look forward to reflecting on this time in the years to come and sharing with you about the modern day miracles that really do still occur, when you believe, step out on faith and trust in Him.
“Faith is being sure of what you hope for and certain of what you do not see.” ~ Heb 11:1